But what you really need is a set of real-world rules for your dealings with the female population, some hard-and-fast basics mom neglected to pass on.
Here are 10 dating rules:
1. Ask her out once & only once
When it comes to dating, too many guys put their brains on hold and start thinking with the equipment downstairs. They become desperate for sex and keep pursuing a woman when she's only marginally interested (or not interested at all), just because they're frantically obsessed with getting their hands on the goodies. Sure, a lot of women are natural game-players -- they love to test men, exert their sexual power, and be pursued.
So expect a little of this at the start. But don't keep asking her out if you keep getting a "No" or "I'm too busy." The cardinal rule is: if a woman is interested in a man, she'll make herself available to him. Even if she has to turn you down, an interested woman will say something like, "But I'd really like to go out. Maybe next week?"
If you get any other response, just dust off your hands and keep walking (she just might develop some respect for you and change her mind).
2. Learn how to be a great lover
Many women complain that men don't know their way around the female anatomy, or even make the effort to bring a woman to orgasm -- they just thrust and grunt and roll over and go to sleep.
These days there's no excuse -- there's plenty of information available out there on the techniques of lovemaking and what women want. Or you can quiz a female friend for some pointers on the best way to please a woman.
If all else fails, go straight to the source and ask your partner what she likes (don't worry, it's not like asking for directions -- you won't lose face). If you take the time to educate yourself, you're going to make a lot of ladies very happy.
3. Always date "over your head"
Never, ever settle; never, ever lower your standards just to get a date. If you see a pretty girl you think is way out of your league, go for it anyway! It's just much more exciting to be with a woman who really turns you on.
Unless you're very rich or very handsome, odds are you won't always win, but when you strike gold, you'll be very glad you did.
4. Do not tolerate intolerable behavior
In our society, women expect to be coddled, pampered and catered to by men. They think with their vaginas -- that is, they expect men to tolerate anything they dish out just by dangling the promise of sex in front of them. So they feel perfectly free to be bitchy, moody, inconsistent, and rude.
Or they don't return phone calls and break dates at the last minute, expecting you to be nice about it because they know they hold the sexual trump card.
The rule is, call her on her bad behavior -- tell her you don't want to be treated this way. If she acts like a bitch, cut the date short and tell her why. If she breaks a date for no good reason, don't ever call her again. If she's really interested, she'll change her behavior.
5. Don't be predictable
Many men make the critical mistake of slipping into complacency in their dating lives. It's all too easy to take a woman for granted -- to just assume that she'll always be there.
But women have a low boredom threshold and falling into predictable patterns can sound the death knell for a relationship -- not to mention opening the door for more adventuresome rivals.
So constantly surprise your woman. Pursue her aggressively, then back off. Give her some mixed signals. Break a date once in a while or show up unexpectedly at her doorstep. You don't want to overdo it, but don't let her get bored.
6. Don't be a doormat
Never act needy, desperate, or clingy -- and especially never, ever grovel for sex.
Assert your independence. Stand up for your rights as a man -- refuse to tolerate any kind of sexual blackmail or manipulation. Just because you're nice, doesn't mean you're weak.
7. Never apologize for your masculine sexuality
Our world has been feminized to death and as women have gained an outspoken national forum, the result has been a debilitating degradation of the male gender. Men are "pigs," "rapists" and "jerks" who "can't keep it in their pants."
An innocent flirtatious look becomes "sexual harassment." Men have been PC'ed into wusses. It's time to put an end to this nonsense -- it's time to stand up for ourselves and stop apologizing for our natural drives.
It's normal for a man to be attracted to a woman and it's normal for a man to want to have sex. If your woman isn't able to comprehend this, then find one who does.
8. Don't be available all the time
Women love a challenge -- they crave mystery and drama in their lives. There's nothing wrong with taking a mini-vacation from your girlfriend to make time for your own guy stuff.
Make sure she realizes that she doesn't have you "all sewn up." And there's nothing wrong with showing open interest in another woman. Make your girlfriend work for it a little, so she doesn't take you for granted.
9. Stop paying for dates
Tell her that you expect a 50/50 relationship. She's got a job and earns equal pay, so why should you be forced to pick up her entertainment bill? If you do, then all you're doing is trading money for sex.
I've told you this before and I'll do so again: Dating should be a partnership, not a whore/john relationship.
10. Have fun!
Unfortunately, a lot of guys are intimidated by -- even scared of -- women because of the awesome sexual power they exert. We're afraid of rejection. We walk on eggshells around women, trying to second-guess if what we're doing is "right."
Lighten up! Have confidence. Be yourself. Guys who are successful with women have fun. They treat their dates like a bratty little sister, not like some mysterious, unattainable goddess set up on a pedestal.
GOLDEN RULES OF DATING
So that's it. If you put these rules into action, they'll help you pick a clear path through the dating minefield and come up a winner every time.
SOURCE: AskMen.com
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