Whether you're the guy or the girl, some tips to make your first kiss one to remember are as follows:
• DO concentrate 100% on your kissing partner. Don't let sounds, noise, environmental distractions, or any people around you deter you from the experience of feeling his or her lips on yours. Close your eyes and release yourself into the moment!
• DON'T tighten your lips and press them against your partner's. Relax your muscles completely, melt into the other person, and let your lips move loosely and naturally.
• A kiss is not a NOUN but a VERB. In other words, a kiss is lips in motion. Although we may believe that to be a kiss all two lips have to do is meet, a memorable kiss is much, much more than that. It's a highly arousing, sensuous action.
• Try varying the intensity of the kiss and the way in which your mouth moves. For example, you may wish to pause after a particularly intense kiss to brush your lips lightly against your partner's. The softer the sensation, the more maddening it can be.
• BREATHE with your partner. When you break your kiss, don't move away from one another immediately. Open your eyes and look at one another, your lips mere millimeters apart. Feel each other's breath against your mouth and share the breath of life itself.
Usually, the first kiss is the guy's responsibility, and it can take a lot of planning! So I've compiled this handy list of tips for guys ... followed by a list of tips for girls.
Guys, Here's What You Should Do
The unexpected kiss planted on her lips might look great in the movies, but it's NOT something you want to do! Unexpected kisses can be awkward, and she'll be left thinking, "What just happened?" rather than feeling on fire.
• DON'T initiate a kiss in a public place. Although the movies often portray kissing in the middle of a crowded subway or busy street as ultra romantic (since the lead characters have no inhibitions to letting the world know how they feel), the first kiss is a fragile thing that can wither quickly if offered to the full light of the world. DO wait until you are by yourselves and undisturbed. The first kiss should be a private, intimate moment between two people, and it is your job to find a place where that will happen.
• Avoid hot days. If you're planning the perfect moment to kiss, wait until the weather has taken a turn for the cooler. You don't want to kiss her when you're both all moist and sweaty. On the other hand, if it's a bit chilly outside, you have the perfect justification for getting a bit closer to share some body heat.
• Avoid awkward positions. Don't try to kiss her when the two of you are sitting with something separating you (like a table, or a steering wheel) and are unable to face one another comfortably. Cars are usually bad places for first kisses, because they are so uncomfortable. This means that you should NOT kiss her from the side or have to turn your head or twist your body. Face her directly ... you'll maintain better eye contact that way as well.
• DON'T bump heads. When you move in to kiss her, do so slowly and pause just before your lips meet to make eye contact with her. If her head is tilted back and her eyes are closed, you're in luck. If her chin is down and she's got her lips pressed tight, slowly ease back and explore her face with your eyes. Let her know that you're interested in getting closer to her--not doing anything that she doesn't want.
• Go slow. First kisses should be slow, soft, gentle, exploratory--not the mad, passionate lip-locking you see in the movies. A first kiss that is too aggressive can seem threatening and turn a girl's interest off immediately. Your first kiss should feel like it is in slow motion. The sensations will feel heightened, and you'll be able to notice her responses more clearly.
• No tongue. A first kiss is like a simple handshake or introduction. It is NOT a sexual act that will lead to the bedroom. As a result, keep your first kiss SENSUAL instead, and keep your tongue firmly in your mouth. Many women feel uncomfortable French-kissing on a first kiss, because they prefer to wait until they know the person better.
• DON'T grope. If she has let you kiss her, she has given you her trust. Don't betray it by feeling up her booty or letting your hands slide under her shirt. Remember that allowing you to kiss her is NOT the same as permission to sleep with her. Rather, it is the first step in earning her trust.
• DO incorporate touch. You may wish to add to the sensations of your kiss by laying your hands LIGHTLY on her arms, her chin, or the back of her neck. You may wish to run your hands through her hair, or place a hand on the small of her back to bring her to you.
• DON'T make a first kiss into a major lip-locking session. Break away first. Draw back, let both of your hearts stop racing, then meet her eyes. If you keep the first kiss short, even if you're both enjoying it, you will leave the taste of the experience lingering in her mouth. As a result, she'll want to see you again ... and again.
Gals, Here are Some Ideas
During the first kiss, you'll be in the position of following his lead. This isn't to say that later on in the kissing game, you won't take the lead some of the time. But on the first kiss, it is best to let him show you his moves. If he's not the best kisser in the world, don't write him off immediately. He may simply need an expert teacher!
The most important part of the first kiss for you is responding to his touch. You want to feel if there is chemistry between you. He will be looking to you for reassurance that his moves are pleasing you. If your skin feels on fire, show him by the way you move or the sounds you make! If you need to back away for a breath or to swallow, do so, by all means, but then move back in to encourage him.
Many women are so caught up in how they look, who's watching, or whether they're going to be late getting home that they find it hard to get lost in a first kiss. Don't worry about ANYTHING except for how you feel as he's kissing you. You can ignore the world for a few moments; it won't go away.
The best response you can give him is a smile. This will affirm that you enjoyed his kiss ... and sooner than you can say, "Gotcha," he'll be coming back for another.
SOURCE: RelationshiPrepair.net
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