Sunday, October 17, 2010

Dating a Cougar - Pros and Cons

Our cougar post has been getting some love and we decided on finding more about the Pros and Cons of Cougar dating. has this to say.

Maybe you have recently thought about getting involved with an older woman. But before you take the proverbial plunge, read on and weigh the pros and cons of such a relationship.

Let's start with the not-so-good news.

Common sense dictates that you cannot be 40 years old and single, and not have a significant amount of baggage. Ex-boyfriends, husbands, children, ex-step-children, pending divorces, business pressures, financial obligations, and debts can often be part of the package.

You must be ready and willing to accept this reality if you are going to get romantically linked with an older woman. This is not to say that you will be asked to deal with these issues per sé ; rather you must realize that an older woman generally has more to worry about than that bushy-tailed co-ed at your dorm.

One cannot deny the allure of the older woman, younger man relationship. But, this relationship remains slightly taboo, unlike the other way around, where the man is much older than the woman, which is perfectly acceptable. After all, no one raised an eyebrow when Catherine Zeta-Jones married Michael Douglas.

Like it or not, by getting involved with an older woman, you are putting yourself in a situation where the moral majority -- people like your parents and boss -- will frown upon you. On the up side, you may become your buddies' hero, and they will start begging you to reveal what it's like.

In any case, people will talk. If you are secure enough in the relationship, or you actually like the attention, then, by all means, proceed.

While we're on the topic of what people will think, keep in mind that older women have been dubbed "cougars" for a reason: They hunt younger men.

In this type of relationship, the woman is often in control. Some think that a woman who dates a younger man does so because she can easily manipulate him; that the man in question will be so awestruck by her attention that he will go along with whatever she says. But that is a theory that does not necessarily apply to every situation.

On to the good news.

Often, older women are newly divorced, and looking to sow their wild oats. Getting involved with a man who isn't looking for a serious relationship and wants to have fun is the perfect solution.

Younger men have the stamina and carefree attitude to satisfy their need for a wild ride. So, if you're looking to learn a thing or two between the sheets, look no further than an older woman. After all, she's no longer sexually inhibited, knows what she wants, and probably has a few tricks up her sleeve.

More often than not, an older woman has faced her insecurities and fears head on, and has dealt with them to the best of her abilities. She likely has enough life experience to know what matters and what doesn't. Consequently, she's above the petty nonsense that drives you crazy about women your own age. An older woman has figured out what makes her look fat, and what looks good on her, and knows enough about male-female relationships to not bother you with feminine trivialities that usually serve to turn men off anyway.

Older women have the self-confidence that could only come from experience and the knowledge that they can handle whatever life throws their way. That is not to say that they never have a bad day, but merely that it's probably due to something more than the fact that they have a pimple and a party to go to that night.

In the end, it's up to you to weigh the pros and cons of such a relationship and decide if it is right for you right now. Let's see, the promise of mind-blowing sex with an experienced, confident woman, without the expectation of a long-term commitment I know, it's a tough call.

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