Sexting Etiquette ... Do's and Don'ts

From our July vocabulary entry on Sexting, we decided to scour the web for proper Sexting etiquette. And AskMen.com has created this great article.

Don’t sext what you wouldn’t say
The ability to text has made us all a little bolder when it comes to our communications, but if you wouldn’t say something out loud to someone, you probably shouldn’t text it. The extra anonymity provided by texting and online interaction makes it more tempting to let loose with your dirtiest talk, but use a little discretion. Remember, a text message or an e-mail leaves a technological footprint that could come back to haunt you. Sometimes, even things you would say in the heat of the moment in bed should never be put in writing. When in doubt, do not sext.


No unsolicited sexting
Just as you would assess a woman’s openness to flirting in person, you should also determine whether or not she’s into receiving your texts on her phone before you pour it on. The fact that she gave you her number is not an invitation to start sexting away at the first opportunity. Start off by flirting casually to see if she responds, then let it build up gradually from there. It’s generally a good rule of thumb to not sext anyone you haven’t sexed in real life first. You would be pretty safe in assuming that she won’t mind getting a steamy text from you when you’ve already gotten busy between the sheets.

Sext with words rather than images
A man will have more success sticking to words when he’s sexting a woman rather than sending pics of his junk. A woman’s sexuality is largely mental, meaning that telling her what you’re going to do to her when you get together will be much more stimulating than a picture of your nether regions. Share your ideas about what the two of you could do in private and you’ll have her blushing every time she checks her phone. Let her use her imagination and have your member stick to in-person appearances only.

Photograph for your audience
Men are very visual creatures when it comes to sex. This is why pornography works so well for them. Women, on the other hand, are not as turned on by images. So receiving a picture of your pride and joy is not likely to do it for her. Men are also more likely to fixate on a certain body part than a woman is. Getting a picture of a girl’s rack will get a guy much more turned on than a woman would be looking at just a man’s penis. Women prefer the whole package. A sexy body all together is a turn-on; a solo shot of his wang is not.